We often use the phrase, “I would rather…” with a wistful tone, wishing for something we don’t have. Sometimes we say it with irritation to express what we’d rather be doing. But what if we flipped our perspectives to claim we’d rather be where we are, doing what we’re doing, instead of our other options?
For example, maybe you’d like a newer car, but there are other things that take priority, such as an education, dance lessons for your daughter, or a thrifty vacation experience with friends or family to make memories together. Would you rather be driving a new car or doing those other things that you’ve prioritized? Despite feelings of being in out-of-control situations at times, we have more choices than we might care to admit because of the responsibilities that come with them. When we get down to the basics, we will admit that we indeed have chosen what we’d rather do.
Instead of complaining, what if you took the high road and began to see the choices you have in front of you?
What if you accepted the responsibility of responding well, so that you make the best choice and move on instead of what focusing on what could have been? Maybe your situation isn’t ideal, but you can still prioritize relationships, faith, and so many other choices. You get to choose how you react to what’s going on around you.
When you say “I’d rather,” do you focus on what you don’t have and what you can’t do, or do you take responsibility for choices to set aside some things for a season in order to prioritize other things? Your approach and perspective matter. Contentment requires you to focus and choose well.
I don’t say this out of need, for I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am. I know both how to have a little, and I know how to have a lot. In any and all circumstances I have learned the secret of being content—whether well fed or hungry, whether in abundance or in need. I am able to do all things through Him who strengthens me. (Philippians 4:11-13)
Very timely. My mother is having health issues right now and it is requiring more time together as I am an only child and she is requiring more care. Not an easy thing for either of us because she is a very strong personality. I am trying to look at this time as a blessing, but it is hard to see her failing physically and mentally.
I am so sorry, Shauna. I know when my dad was struggling, it was so helpful to try to see the opportunities to help as blessings. Not always easy, to be sure, but difficult can equal goodness at times. I was just reflecting on that on Good Friday. It was hard but good!
I am a bit belated in replying…so many things have happened since the end of March. I get snatches of time here and there so posting on my blog is problematic…I don’t seem to have more attention span than a gnat these days! Mom came home today, albeit not without challenges. Already I have had to call two of her doctors to clarify her medication regimen because the facility that discharged her simply went from what was ordered when she went in, and two things were written as thirty days only when I am sure they are ongoing –one of them is prednisone, which CANNOT just be stopped, the patient is supposed to have gradually decreasing doses to wean off, and they did not so that. If I were not a nurse and not familiar with these things, we would be right back in the hospital!
So thankful you are able to help!