We influence from where we are.

I’ve written often about being intentional about our health – emotionally, mentally, and spiritually – in order to have the best relationships we can have. We influence people well when we are living well. Not perfectly but authentically, leaning forward toward growth.

A friend and I recently talked about how we need to not place conditions on our influence. We don’t need to excuse or compare the advice we give with our experiences. For example, I am not less able to give quality relationship advice because my ex chose to walk away from his family and toward something else. And I have the added context of being a strong woman of faith through a difficult time. Perhaps the people I influence now will need that example someday and will look back on how I handled a horribly hurtful situation and be encouraged that they can survive, heal, and thrive.

I don’t have all the answers. I don’t give perfect advice. But I – and you – can share life with others with honesty and humility and, in the process, encourage them to face any situation with patience, grace, and courage.