Controlling People

photo-1510520613881-795159cd71b8Would you rather be resented or feel resentful? When you say “no” to a controlling person, you may be resented. But that’s better than saying “yes” and then resenting them for “controlling” you. Harboring resentment will kill your heart. (Dr. Henry Cloud)

Controlling people often don’t see themselves as controlling. They may see themselves as helpful, rational, concerned, invested, or loving. They nearly always see themselves as right. They rarely see others as “enough.” In my experience, controllers get harsher when they have growing insecurities and anxieties. They rarely back down, and they almost never seek or grow in humility.

Yet they are often the first to blame others and get resentful and revengeful.

To be frank, it’s sad.

Saying “no” to a controlling person has consequences.

Refusing to respond to a controlling person has consequences.

You will be misunderstood, misrepresented, and probably resented.

But you won’t be controlled or resentful. You will be healthier.

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