The first time I ate supper with my husband (then boyfriend) and his family was the quietest meal I’ve ever eaten. My mother-in-law is a homemaker/keeper extraordinaire. Each room is set up “just right” and each meal is served “just right.” Everything is neat and organized and proper. And her house is filled with antiques. We were waiting for Tim’s dad to come home from work before eating. Too much time on their hands, Tim and his brother had to do something. So they started to wrestle.
Both “boys” were over 6-feet, and either they had grown or the room had shrunk since their former days of wrestling when they both lived at home. I remember “Boys. Stop.” being repeated several times, but it took a loud, firm “Boys, that is enough!” to prompt Tim and Jeff to stop. They were locked in a contorted position against a chair. There was a brief moment of silence before they moved, which caused a chain reaction.
Apparently, as they pushed against the chair, the chair moved against the wall, slightly lifting an antique mirror off its nail. As they moved, so did the chair and the mirror, which fell over the split-level railing onto a lamp and continued down the basement steps. Being a newcomer to the family, I wasn’t sure if Tim and Jeff’s expressions as the scene unfolded reflected amusement or terror. Lucy wasn’t amused. To their credit, the boys jumped up to begin the cleanup, but Lucy – in her restrained Southern-lady voice – firmly demanded, “Boys, just go eat your supper. Now.”
So the three of us ate quietly in the kitchen.
We often don’t know when to stop. We’re having fun, or we lose track of time, or we take one step at a time before we realize we’ve veered way off course. And something gets broken: a relationship, values, faith. And the rebuilding begins. (By the way, the boys knew what to get Lucy for Christmas that year…a fixed mirror!)
What’s been broken in your life as a result of your actions or lack of resolve?
How is the rebuilding process progressing?
Check the blueprints of healthy rebuilding and healing and commit to taking the necessary next steps in a timely manner. Set a tangible goal and place a nail where you’ll see it often to remind you of your commitment.
Then I said to them, “You can see the trouble we have here. Jerusalem is a pile of ruins, and its gates have been burned. Come, let’s rebuild the wall of Jerusalem so we won’t be full of shame any longer.” I also told them how God had been kind to me and what the king had said to me. Then they answered, “Let’s start rebuilding.” So they began to work hard. Nehemiah 2:17-18