Do you have a complaint about church? You don’t like the type (or volume) of music, the (lack of) dependability of a staff member or volunteer, the teaching style, small group availability, lack of attention to children’s ministry (or any other ministry), opportunities for service throughout the community and world.

You get the point. The thing is…what the church does isn’t nearly as important as what the church is.

Together you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is a part of that body. (1 Corinthians 12:27)

If you’re focused on what the church is for you, it’s time for an adjustment. The church isn’t about you. Yes, you are part of the church, and you’re an important part, but you’re important for who God says you are within the church. Your preferences and comfort aren’t the primary concern.

When you complain about something or someone, who are you harming the most? You might rationalize you’re helping because you might be fixing a problem or challenging someone to grow, yet changes from complaints are rarely constructive or long-lasting unless there co-exists an intentional discussion about and relationship of growth and accountability. Hitting someone or something head on rarely has the same effect as walking alongside.

If you have a complaint, consider how you can change more than how much you can change something or someone else.

Why do you notice the little piece of dust in your friend’s eye, but you don’t notice the big piece of wood in your own eye? (Matthew 7:3)

When they continued to ask Jesus their question, he raised up and said, “Anyone here who has never sinned can throw the first stone at her.” (John 8:7)

Instead of focusing on how something or someone else needs to change, invite God to invade your life and change you. You might think someone else isn’t where they are supposed to be right now, but are you? Don’t answer that question by yourself. What would God say?

If the something or someone you want to change so badly still needs your help when God’s done working on you, you’ll be even better equipped to do so. Most important, you’ll rely on him for the strength, wisdom, and compassion to do so.

The Lord says, “I will make you wise and show you where to go. I will guide you and watch over you. So don’t be like a horse or donkey, that doesn’t understand. They must be led with bits and reins, or they will not come near you.” (Psalm 32:8-9)