We often mourn the before: before the betrayal, move, diagnosis, death, election, etc.
We look back at a preferred time and situation.
I get it.
And while mourning the before might be beneficial and even necessary for a season, it can become counterproductive, even creating distortion and confusion, in the long run. We can make the before something that it wasn’t, and compare it to the flaws of now, creating discontent.
We can fondly recall the past, but if we try to go back to it, we will fail every single time. We can only learn from it and move into the future with the lessons, examples, healing, and experiences.
We can mourn the before but live in the after.