For though we live in the body, we do not wage war in an unspiritual way, since the weapons of our warfare are not worldly, but are powerful through God for the demolition of strongholds. We demolish arguments and every high-minded thing that is raised up against the knowledge of God, taking every thought captive to obey Christ. (1 Corinthians 10:3-6)
Do you consider “tearing down” more positive or negative? Why?
What is your confrontational style? Are you more of an avid confronter or avoiding confronter?
What would it take for you to “take every thought captive to obey Christ”?
Tearing down may seem like a bad thing. To be sure, we’ve all been torn down and apart to varying degrees. We’ve all torn down others, too. But when we’re told in Ecclesiastes that there’s a season for tearing down, that’s not the direction God intends for us. Tearing down refers to demolishing the kind of fighting that is selfish and doesn’t honor God, using weapons He never intended for us to pick up. Tearing down is what we have to do with what doesn’t fit into His ways.
Tearing down isn’t about the other person. It’s about yourself. And it’s not about negative self-talk. It’s about humility, a willingness to see as God sees. He will never demean you. He will challenge you to grow and change but never in an unloving way. It’s not in His character to do so. You can trust Him.
Tearing down includes taking the high road with humility. It’s where we often find common ground with others. When we’re humble, we are willing to look someone in the eye and respect them if for no other reason than they, like us, were created by God. If we choose to tear someone down made in God’s image (no matter what distortion we perceive they are representing), we tear down God, too. Instead, let Him discern what strongholds need to be demolished and what thoughts need to be taken captive. Only He has the insight the ability to do so.
What needs to be torn down in your life so that you can confront someone the way God intends, set aside an argument (not because of avoidance but because God is telling you to humbly set yourself aside), or abundantly forgive someone? Write what you need to tear down on a sticky note. Carry it with you throughout the day. When you’re ready, tear it in half. If you aren’t sure that you can completely demolish the idea of what you need to tear down, keep one half of the paper. When you’re ready, tear it again. Repeat the process until you are ready and willing to completely tear it apart and give it up, letting God have control of you and the situation.