There’s a sand bar between Bar Harbor and Bar Island, Maine. The first time I pass by it, I saw only water. Later in the day, I looked from higher above and saw many people walking across the walk way only revealed by low tide. It’s only visible (and walkable) for an hour and a half before and after low tide. If you walk to Bar Island and lose track of time, your options are (1) wait around nine hours until the next tide cycle, or (2) call the posted rescue number and pay someone to rescue you by boat.

Next time I’m in Bar Harbor, I’m going to walk the sandbar. For now, I’ll let the lessons sink in.

• Pay attention to timing. Flexibility and spontaneity are great in many circumstances but must be balanced with the laws of nature and the truths of life. Ignoring reality will eventually leave you stranded with few options for rescue.
• Pay attention to pace. Go slowly enough to observe and appreciate. Move quickly enough to avoid getting stuck. Rest when needed. Be realistic about the time allotments you give to the goals and destinations.
• Pay attention to connections. While travelling alone can provide amazing insights and opportunities, connect with people even if only briefly. Be interested in others’ stories. Learn and converse. You’ll begin to appreciate the ways you can help and pour into you and vice versa.

I think I’m pretty good in each of these areas—until I reread them and consider some circumstances I’ve chosen to set aside as exceptions.

• Pay attention to timing, except when…
• Pay attention to pace, except when…
• Pay attention to connections, except when…

If I’m not more intentional, I might just find myself stuck on Bar Island, waiting for the water taxi to rescue me.