I have high expectations of leadership. I certainly don’t expect perfection. I value humility, self-reflection, pursuit of growth, listening to and equipping others. I value honesty and standards. I value consistency and reliability in the context of persevering progress. I value putting intention into action.

I hold myself to the same standards, and I fail at times. I am learning and growing.

I get impatient at times when leaders fall short—and don’t own it. Sometimes they don’t even see it. It’s the lack of self-reflection and humility. They stand in their position and justify behavior. They live by one set of standards but hold others to inconsistencies that seem made up each step and situation along the way. They sometimes shrink back in their position and justify their behavior. They excuse why they can’t speak up or make changes. They don’t listen and engage well enough to know or convey the temperature in a way that takes ownership without exposing the people that don’t share the protection they have. They sometimes make errors that could help those around them grow. They could strengthen the foundation to build on. But instead they choose to excuse, hide, deceive. It doesn’t have to be lies about the big stuff. It’s the smaller things that reveal character cracks—signs of chasms to come. But there are often too many protectors who don’t speak accountability or too much defense in the one who won’t receive the input of truth.

I get frustrated. I see how much better teams, situations, processes, and individuals can be. I try to speak truth and encouragement where I can, but it’s not always received. I’ve learned to respond as best I can and pursue the same values I espouse. I can’t choose for anyone else.

I’ve learned I don’t need to expect leadership to handle things the way I would—or the way I think I would.

I don’t give up those standards for others. Leadership involves responsibility and those not willing to take it need to face consequences. But I’m only in my own shoes. I get to respond well, including in those situations when leadership deteriorates and begins to rot those around them, including themselves and their character.

Today I’m going to choose well. No matter my position, I will live in my purpose. You can, too.

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