I hadn’t known my fellow ATVers for long, but we bonded over the experience. At the end of our ride, we compared our filthy clothes and exposed skin. Our guide told us about a group who hadn’t planned to ATV on vacation, so once they booked the excursion, they went to the store and bought souvenir-style sweats and shirts. Their plan was to get them dirty, then toss them in the trash.
One of my fellow ATVers said, “That’s my goal – to have enough money that I can just buy clothes to wear for the day and toss aside. #lifegoals.”
We all have #lifegoals, things we think determine progress or success in our lives. We might chuckle or scoff at other’s life goals, but we have our own that spur someone else’s chuckles or scoffs. The point isn’t to receive others’ approval or avoid their disapproval. We need to be a bit more discerning about our life goals. We need to widen our perspective to assess what truly has value in life, not just personally but absolutely.
We’re still going to pursue some of the sillier, less important things of life, but what are our core life goals? If it’s about getting “enough” money, our definition of enough will shift with our income. If it’s about getting “enough” admiration and accolades for our achievements, we’ll find our definition of enough is built on shifting sand, and people’s opinions and attention will change. If it’s about getting “enough” happiness, we’ll discover the definition of happiness is fleeting because it is often built on temporary experiences we define by feelings instead of a more deeply satisfying purpose.
You might think you know what your deeply-abiding lifegoals are, but does your everyday life reflect your pursuit of them? Do your words and actions point you and others toward your lifegoals?
It’s worth the effort and humility to break apart your assumptions about your lifegoals and reconstruct them with intention and purpose.