People are complaining about the guidelines surrounding COVID-19. People have been complaining for weeks. That’s nothing new.
We’re all weary.
Increasingly I hear, “The people making these decisions are wrong. It’s unfair, part of a big plan to infringe on our freedoms.” But to those who have been sick or have been directly impacted by those who are sick feel differently.
Even though this is certainly an unusual challenge, people’s responses are not too different from responses to other rules or guidelines we have. People agree other people shouldn’t speed. Until they’re in a hurry—or in any situation that seems to support what they want to do. We claim one “side” until something flips the script and we need to see the other side because someone we love struggles or is hurt or is gone.
It makes sense that we see our own perspective the best, but we need to be willing to consider other perspectives. We need to pause our rationalizing to support ourselves and discredit others. We might still believe we are right, but we can engage in respectful conversation. We don’t have to tear down others to prove ourselves.
Guidelines are inconvenient and tiresome at times. I get it. I’m tired of them. But I’m also tired of so many complaints and whining, of accusations and rationalizations, or me thinking instead of we thinking. I can deal with the complaints and whining when we’re trying to healthily cope and authentically share, but when someone’s primary coping strategy is to vent outrage and lash disrespect, I am sad—for the person, for the people in the wake, and for the wear and tear it has throughout our communities.
We can do better. We can be better.