The house you live in is most likely solid and in little danger of collapsing in the coming days, forcing you to rebuild. Rebuilding seems reserved for those who are struck by a disaster such as fire, tornado, or floods. Yet rebuilding goes far beyond the realm of your house. Consider a child’s playroom. It likely includes building blocks of various kinds. One of small children’s favorite games seems to be to knock over a tall tower of blocks as soon as it gets built. Or perhaps the challenge is to see how many can be stacked on top of one another until the entire tower crumbles. Then there are the creations that last for quite a while, longer than you prefer, because you’ve requested the blocks be picked up multiple times. “But, Mom (insert whine here), it’s a whole city, and it took me FOREVER to build!”
We also build friends, networks, and programs. The relationships we build are the most important investment of construction. They’re also more complicated than placing one brick on top of another. Every relationship is different. Building blocks are placed together in a variety of patterns within different timeframes. We don’t have explicit instructions of when and where to place each building block. Each relationship involves two people building at the same time, and there are often misunderstandings and imbalance of responsibility. Something—someone—gets overlooked or damaged, and some of the building comes crumbling down.
Rebuilding is essential in restorative relationships. You must clear the rubble and assess the damage in order to make the best decisions about how to rebuild. Planning and rebuilding a relationship require cooperation. Rebuilding is intentional, not haphazard. God has given you his blueprint of basic instruction. Build each relationship with biblical principles. How pretty it looks and how comfortable it is doesn’t matter much if it’s not sound.
Dig into God’s Word…
The people of Judah said, “The workers are getting tired. There is so much trash we cannot rebuild the wall.” (Nehemiah 4:10)
Come to the Lord Jesus, the “stone” that lives. The people of the world did not want this stone, but he was the stone God chose, and he was precious. You also are like living stones, so let yourselves be used to build a spiritual temple—to be holy priests who offer spiritual sacrifices to God. He will accept those sacrifices through Jesus Christ. (1 Peter 2:4-5)
Look at what God has done: No one can straighten what he has bent. When life is good, enjoy it. But when life is hard, remember: God gives good times and hard times, and no one knows what tomorrow will bring. (Ecclesiastes 7:13-14)
If anyone belongs to Christ, there is a new creation. The old things have gone; everything is made new! All this is from God. Through Christ, God made peace between us and himself, and God gave us the work of telling everyone about the peace we can have with him. (2 Corinthians 5:17-18)
I am not telling you this because I need anything. I have learned to be satisfied with the things I have and with everything that happens. I know how to live when I am poor, and I know how to live when I have plenty. I have learned the secret of being happy at any time in everything that happens, when I have enough to eat and when I go hungry, when I have more than I need and when I do not have enough. (Philippians 4:11-12)
Live It Out Loud…
Use objects readily available to you to build something. If you’re in the kitchen, grab utensils from your drawer. If you’re at your desk, grab office supplies. Using 10-15 objects, build something stable within 30-60 seconds. Sit back and look at its construction quality. What would you change if you had more time or more building material options?
Building your life on the foundation of God’s Word and Jesus as the cornerstone is as solid as you—or anyone else—can build. Commit to trusting God to tear down anything unsound in your life with the promise of a rebuilding process with him as the foreman. You’ll get dirty and sweaty in the process, but the result at the end of your life will be worth the commitment.